1. Decide this is a good position for you for now.
- Enjoy making friends with your coworkers
- Don't treat it as merely a means-to-an-end
2. Stop taking advice on how to be successful.
- What people suggest is often overwhelming (and not feasible for everyone)
- Find your own goals and your own road for getting there
3. Create a "feel good" email folder.
- Emails of praise, offers, acceptances, etc.
- To be opened and reread whenever you feel insecure
4. Work a fixed number of hours and a fixed amount.
- Here, I quote her directly, since she shares a lot of detail about her method here:
- "I travel at most 5 times a year. This includes: all invited lectures, all panel meetings, conferences, special workshops, etc. [...] It is *not easy* to say no that often, especially when the invitations are so attractive, or when the people asking are so ungraceful in accepting no for an answer. But when I didn’t have this limit I noticed other things. Like how exhausted and unhappy I was, how I got sick a lot, how it affected my kids and my husband, and how when I stopped traveling I had so much more time to pay real attention to my research and my amazing students.
5. Try to be the best "whole" person you can.
- Don't buy into the idea that not being the "best" at one part of your life means you suck
- It is not a compromise; you are being the "best" at being a complete and happy person
6. Find real friends.
- People who think you're special
- Friends "not in your field but in your 'court'"
7. Have fun NOW.
- "Demote the prize [career] so the risk becomes less" when you dare to enjoy yourself
- Take as much vacation as possible, during which NO EMAIL